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Dating
By blogadmin | February 15, 2008
Dating is a tough one when you are on a journey like this. I had a date the other night - do they still call it that? Nice guy, nice, I know people hate that word but it’s true. He was charming, attentive, flirty and yes I guess I wanted a little more. So tonight we’re catching up again. So what does one do on this kind of day. Nothing out of the norm. Training and work. Problem was, I was so tired after my session all I wanted to do was crash on the couch. Good thing I’m motivated - so I eventually got up. I’m typing this while waiting to go out - multi tasking. My shrink tells me I owe it to myself to find a partner, short term , long term doesn’t matter. I just need to get back out in the world and experience life outside my daughter, my extended family and work. But it’s so scary!!!!!!
The questions that go over and over in your mind are stupid. Then you keep telling yourself you’re being stupid which makes you feel even worse. Surely I will snap out of this cycle at some point.
Why would he want to be seen out with me?
Does he think all fat girls are easy because we don’t get asked very often?
Is he just feeling sorry for me?
Then you say to yourself ‘oi stupid, maybe he thinks your ok’!!!! It’s just hard when you don’t think that you would actually go out with yourself at the moment.
You see, the last time I lost weight was when I was madly in love and truly thought that I would be more lovable if I was thinner. They say thin people are sizest, well let me tell you, fat people are also.
Anyway, this isn’t about my love life, so enough of that.
What happened to my confidence? Did I leave it in a shoe shop somewhere??
Having a browse online about this issue and it’s commented on frequently.
Check this out at WikiAnswers
I’ve been overweight 95% of my life and during that time I have dated plenty of people, so I know it’s not my weight that is the issue. It comes down to how you feel about yourself and in times when I have been feeling confident (or good at faking it), it’s all fine. The other times, it gets a bit quieter on the romance front.
You need to treat yourself how you want to be treated, love yourself how you want to be loved, respect yourself like you want to be respected etc etc and then Mr or Ms Right will walk on in the door.
It’s funny, I’m so into goal setting etc etc but the one thing I have never done is write about my perfect partner. Some people say this is how the Universe will use the Law of Attraction to bring them to you…..I’ve never been able to figure out who I’m looking for so that page in my journal is still empty.
Back to the rest of the Wild Wooly Web - there are actually dating sites (and lots of them) for larger men and women. BBW that’s what we’re called apparently.
Here are a couple if you want to have a look.
Overweight Date
Large Friends
Find a BBW Lover
There are lots more dating sites out there, but hey…..I don’t need to join a BBW dating site, as I’m not going to be a BBW for much longer!!!
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