Join me on a journey of weight loss and self development, to find happiness under layers of fat and insecurity » Goals http://strippingbackthelayers.com Join me on a journey to find happiness under layers of fat and insecurity. Mon, 12 Jul 2010 12:49:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 Why some weight loss goals don’t work. http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2010/05/19/why-some-weight-loss-goals-dont-work/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2010/05/19/why-some-weight-loss-goals-dont-work/#comments Wed, 19 May 2010 11:15:35 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/?p=96 I have achieved some goals and not others.  I can now sit back and tell you the very reasons why I didn’t achieve some goals.  The biggest reason of all – the goals weren’t really true to my heart (at that time).  Weight loss is a big one (all puns intended).  There have been times of my life that I have lost some of the weight that I have struggled with since birth.  I can pin point the reasons.  Once it was to show an ex-lover just how great I was, once was because my mum sent me to Jenny Craig, once was because I was depressed after a breakup and once was because I thought it would help me keep a partner……were any of those reasons really true to me – NO!!!

Over the last couple of years I have lost weight, put on a little bit and am now losing again.  Why, this time? Well I started because I wanted to encourage myself and my sister to do exercise.  I couldn’t afford the personal training so dropped out.  Now the reasons are solely mine.

  • I want to stay free from Type 2 diabetes
  • I want to stay free from heart disease
  • I want to live a long, healthy and happy life
  • I want more energy
  • I want to play everything with my daughter (not just the easy things)
  • I want to start sailing again
  • I want to walk into ANY shop and buy clothes
  • I want to fit back into all my gorgeous shoes

All of these reasons are now about ME.  Yeah, finally.  You would have thought I could figure it out before 36.

Anyway, now I am following the 10 Steps to Achieving Your Goals that I have previously followed when I have actually achieved goals.

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2010/05/19/why-some-weight-loss-goals-dont-work/feed/ 0 The Weight Loss Merry-go-round. http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/08/25/the-weight-loss-merry-go-round/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/08/25/the-weight-loss-merry-go-round/#comments Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:39:43 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/08/25/the-weight-loss-merry-go-round/ I feel like screaming from the tree tops – ‘here we go round the mulberry bush….’ It’s the story of weight loss for everyone. You go well, you go crap…..and these few months have been crap. I refuse point blank to let it stop me from continuing this journey though – it’s far too important. So, I’ll just have to get over it I guess. One of the worst moments of my life was seeing photos of myself at my daughters birthday party last year – well it’s her birthday again in 8 weeks and I won’t reach my goal in that time (unless I get some can’t eat enything illness – which I don’t want), and part of me feels SOSOSOSO bad about that, but the other part says ‘hey, you’ve lost weight, you’re getting your issues with food etc sorted out and you feel better – so stop complaining!!!’.
I will stop complaining because there are worse issues in the world than being overweight and I’m working on it. Besides, I can get closer in the next few weeks.

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/08/25/the-weight-loss-merry-go-round/feed/ 0 Shift your thinking http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/13/shift-your-thinking/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/13/shift-your-thinking/#comments Wed, 13 Feb 2008 10:42:07 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/13/shift-your-thinking/ What did I do tonight?? Well it wasn’t exactly exciting enough to cause fireworks, but it made me feel great.
I cleaned out my wardrobe.
All the clothes that made me look or feel fat and frumpy went in a pile.
All the clothes I can fit into went at one end, the ones with a few more kilos to go in the middle and the one that are 20kgs off down the other end.
I tell you, you need to do this. It’s like I’ve been shopping, I now have all these extra clothes to wear.
I needed to actually try everything on as I still think I’m bigger than I am and those ‘nicer’ clothes won’t fit me. They do. Now I have no excuse not to wear nice clothes every day. I needed to actually see for real that I wasn’t 133.5kgs any more. I know the scales say I’m 118.5kgs, but I still felt so much bigger than I am. I needed to shift my thinking.
This was a very liberating and uplifting feeling.
Anyone who has been up and down the weight see saw would know this feeling. You have clothes in your wardrob in 6 sizes and you feel like you have nothing to wear. It just takes a little organisation, but I swear you will have clothes that will help motivate you to stay on track. I’m not talking that elusive little black dress that you last wore in 1995, I’m talking current clothes that will help you feel like you fit in again, RIGHT NOW!!!!!
That’s the important thing. You want to start feeling fashionable, sexy and attractive along your weight loss journey, not just at the end….because guess what!!! There is no end to a weight loss journey. If you have ever been overweight you are on that journey for life baby. You may not be actively shedding weight but maintaining your goal weight will require just as much effort. I know this because I’ve lost weight, not made the effort and put it all back on again. Never again!!!!

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/13/shift-your-thinking/feed/ 0 Mondayitis http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/11/mondayitis/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/11/mondayitis/#comments Mon, 11 Feb 2008 09:54:26 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/11/mondayitis/ Is Mondayitis a word???? No, however it is a sickness that many of us are faced with every 7 days. Questions go over and over in our minds, answers are a little less prolific.
Life changing thoughts spin around and around at dizzying speeds.
I don’t know about you, but it’s like every Monday is New Years Day all over again.
I will be great with my food habits!
I will exercise more!
I will keep the house spotless!
I will work hard!
What do I want to do with my life?
Should I change jobs?
Should I find a partner?
Can I be bothered?
I’ll stop spending so much money!
I’ll stick to a budget!
I make phone calls when I say I’m going to!
I’ll finish my To Do List – everyday!

We usually start of well, then by the time the 6th day has come around again, it’s like it’s Christmas, and we think – oh, heck…..I’ll start being good on Monday. What happened to Wednesday, do any of us ever start a new thing on a Wednesday? Probably not as we are to intrenched in worrying if we are going to stick to our weekly resolutions.

I’ve changed this in my house – I start the month on a mission. I have a chart in my ensuite with each day listed for the month. Across the top are then things I want to do everyday. Yes, I’m a dag and I use little star stickers to mark out what I achieve everyday.

Last month I did really well. I even managed to stop biting my fingernails!!!

This month I added “Do Something Fun”, as I felt I was really letting myself down by not making sure I spent some time every month, doing something fun.

I’ll add links to the Strippers Tools page as I go with things I use that keep me motivated.

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/11/mondayitis/feed/ 0 Has it shrunk yet? http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/05/has-it-shrunk-yet/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/05/has-it-shrunk-yet/#comments Tue, 05 Feb 2008 10:33:36 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/08/has-it-shrunk-yet/ Ok, so it’s day one of War On Waistlines and I don’t think my war has been successful yet.  You know what, that’s  not true.  I made it to the gym, exercised for 20min then had my first FPT Session.

So I have had a good day. Emotionally, a terrible day. I just take everything so personally. I was crying my eyes out when the carpet man came to fix something – he listened for a while and truly made me feel a little better. I think talking to someone outside your circle, sometimes makes a difference.
Food wise – OK day. That is, I haven’t been an angel, but my devil wings didn’t appear either.
No Alcohol
No chocolate
I did have a piece of cake that was at work…oops…but I can’t live my life never eating anything deemed to be ‘naughty’ again. All things in moderation.

We need to do a food and exercise diary as part of the competition.  I think this will be good for me.  So many people say when you write down everything it really starts to make the difference.  My plan had been to use this blog for that purpose, but I thought people would get bored reading about it.  But then I ahve found blogs that contain pages of every rep that someone does at a gym and they have loads of readers, so obviously some people are interested.

Memo to self.  You feel fantastic after winning the Fernwood War On Waistlines competition!!!!!!

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/05/has-it-shrunk-yet/feed/ 0 War on Waistlines http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/03/war-on-waistlines/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/03/war-on-waistlines/#comments Sun, 03 Feb 2008 10:33:03 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/03/war-on-waistlines/ At Fernwood they have just launched War on Waistlines. I aiming to win. There is a great incentive….shopping trip to Melbourne.
I have a pretty hefty (all puns intended) goal. I am aiming for 100kgs by the end of the comp (end of April). I know that is faster then I have been going so far, but it is do able and I would LOVE to win.
We have the launch tomorrow night, so I’ll keep you updated.

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/02/03/war-on-waistlines/feed/ 0 The Optimist’s Creed http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/01/10/the-optimists-creed/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/01/10/the-optimists-creed/#comments Thu, 10 Jan 2008 09:59:24 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/01/10/the-optimists-creed/ I’m an Optimist. I believe that everything will be ok one day. One day I will be a healthy weight. One day I will no longer get so down when I feel I have let someone down. One day I will truly believe I am a great mother for my daughter. One day I’ll get this blog design finished and actually start letting people know it’s here!!!?Ok, so on day I will actually start writing on it everyday.?Do you find life gets in the way of you doing what you want to do?? I missed the gym today, because it was so busy at work. Yes, that’s an excuse. Yes, I probably could have found a way – but it all just seemed too hard.?I have The Optimist’s Creed by Christian D Larson on my bathroom wall and in my office. It’s amazing. Written nearly 100 years ago, I hope you will find that it means something to you also.
Here is a modified version that The Secret published – still haven’t seen the movie, I’ll know you’ll find that hard to believe.
The Optimist’s Creed

]]> http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2008/01/10/the-optimists-creed/feed/ 0 So what are my goals http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2007/11/21/so-what-are-my-goals/ http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2007/11/21/so-what-are-my-goals/#comments Wed, 21 Nov 2007 09:27:52 +0000 blogadmin http://strippingbackthelayers.com/2007/11/21/so-what-are-my-goals/ My goal list is HUGE. It includes a list of places I want to go to – I need to travel twice a year for the next 42 years to achieve all of those by the way.?Goals are funny. I used to think that when you didn’t reach a goal is was so upsetting, that there was really no point even trying. How wrong can a person be????I can’t even remember who said it, but it went something like this….If your goal is to earn $100k in the next 12 months, and you only make it to $94k, will you be upset – no, what an achievement.?So now I do write and discuss my goals, but NEVER with those people who try to put a lid on them.?A woman called Di Cartwright told me to write out your goal, and then the 52 reasons for achieving that goal. I did that with a major goal I had a few years ago, and guess what? I achieved it.?I haven’t done the 52 reasons lately, but I will get it down on paper this week for the major goals I have. Here are some for the next 12 months.?Reach my goal weight of 70kgs by October 22nd, 2008.?Have no credit card debt by May 31st, 2008.?Visit my parents once a month (every month).?Finish the additional building in my apartment by March 1st, 2008.?Have $10,000 in my daughters education account by Dec 31st, 2008.?Train a minimum of 3 times a week for a minimum of 1 hour (every week).?Finish reading all the books and educational material I have bought by Jan 31st, 2008.?Have 2 holidays (out of Sydney) by Dec 31st, 2008.?Have friends over for dinner a minimum of once a fortnight (every fortnight).
Find a date – or let a date find me by June 2008.
As you can see, these are just personal goals – I have business goals and family goals, but I’m not sharing them today.
Have a go with your 52 reasons……I’m going to be up for hours writing mine.

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